How many times a day do you find yourself NOT doing something, because you do not feel confident?
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How many times do you find it hard to invest in your health, because you are afraid you will fail?
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Keep reading if you want the magic secret to your dream body.
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If you do not believe in yourself right now, and I invite you to borrow my belief in you. I BELIEVE IN YOU. . You know why? . Because I failed hard core the first time I had a personal trainer. Last year, I hired a personal trainer online, I paid her quite a large sum of money, and after the first few weeks, I found myself continually sabotaging myself. I was always eating snacks at night, I stopped working out, and I spent my days feeling like a complete failure, hiding in my bedroom watching netflix. I quit, and I walked away from that investment feeling like a total failure. Every time I worked out at the beginning, I did feel better after, but I could not muster up the motivation to go to the gym when I kept sabotaging myself. . A few months went by, I gained more weight, and I was MORE unhappy and depressed, barely left my room, and never went to dance class. I was miserable. So Black Friday came around, I invested in three months of coaching, and tried again.I struggled with the nutrition at first, but I succeeded when I FINALLY gave myself permission to be consistent, but not throw in the towel and fully sabotage myself when things were not perfect. . The first time I worked with the trainer, my why wasn't strong enough to get me out of bed, and allow me to be the hero of my story. I had to dig deeper for a stronger and better why that got me to the gym even on the days I felt like absolute garbage and the last thing I wanted to do was to workout. . But almost a year later now, and I am SO thankful I did. It did not happen overnight. It was not easy, but I was worth it. . I also knew that the pain of being in the exact same place a year later was paralyzing to me. I was so depressed, and hated how much I had failed, that I could not be in the exact same place a year later. . I want you to imagine yourself a year from now, and if nothing changes between now and next year, is that the person you want to be? Will you be happy? Will you be proud? How will you feel? . . . . . . . . . . Now, imagine yourself a year from now, you have become the hero of your story, fighting through the days you didn't want to get out of bed, and you had no energy, and how you feel, but you did it and you went. You have healed your relationship with food. How do you feel as that person? What is different? What is she/he/they doing? Who is she/he/they? . . . . . . . I wouldn't be a good coach if I coddled you - what defines me as a coach is challenging you to fight for that person you truly want to be. . And failure is a huge part of that. Failure means you have learned a lot of ways how to not do something. . Ask any successful person. Ask Walt Disney (if you could, or read his documentaries). Ask your favorite stars. They will tell you they FAILED so many times before they succeeded. They felt awful at times. They doubted themselves. They didn't believe in themselves. . But they kept going. . These are a few of my favorite quotes: . "The Magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding." ."We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same” - Carlos Castaneda . “There’s 2 kinds of suffering - the suffering that leads to more suffering [self-sabotage] and the suffering that leads to the end suffering [facing your wounds]. If you are not willing to face the latter, you will surely continue to experience the first.” . I want to tell you that you deserve to achieve everything you want to achieve. I want to tell you to go out there and seize the day, that’s it’s YOUR DAY. I want to light a fire in your soul to get to the gym and eat well and shave your legs (damn that’s hard in lockdown lol) and slay the day and do the laundry that’s piled up in the corner and GO TO COSTA RICA. And so here’s me saying “Go fucking do it!” . But honestly, that’s not enough. Even though I do want it for you and I do genuinely believe that you deserve those things, you have to want it. You have to believe that you deserve to accomplish those things. And that fire, that motivational spark that you’re looking for? That comes from you. . And it comes from within. And worst of all, and this is something that not a lot of people are going to tell you- genuine, long lasting BURNING motivation. The kind of motivation that gets shit done— those people who just SMASH it every single day— they have a deep, internal self-driven motivation. . And here’s what no one else will tell you, THAT motivation is painful. . To get the kind of motivation that gets you out of bed every morning, the motivation to go to the gym when it’s raining, to go to school and finish your essays to graduate, to choose carrots instead of a pan of cookies. that motivation to do the things you HATE, that comes from a place of pain. And we’ve all got it. . So how do you find your motivation? You’ve gotta find your WHY. And any “self-help” book will tell you that. This isn’t anything new. . Here’s the thing though, your first “why” isn’t your motivation. You have to keep asking “why”. I believe there are AT LEAST 5 levels of WHY. Okay, so you need motivation to go to the gym. WHY(1)? To feel healthy. WHY(2) To get fit. WHY(3)? To get the job you dream of. WHY(4)? To LOVE your life. WHY(5)? To feel confident as the amazing human you are and not spend your whole life in a job you hate, stuck in the same town, dreading every day except the two weeks of vacation you get each year. . And there it is. 5 whys deep. Your motivation “to go to the gym” is valid, but it’s surface level. . You don’t want to get fit, I mean you do. But at the end of the day, what you truly want is to feel hot and run around Costa Rica in a swim suit and have loads of energy. To leave your insecurities in the garbage. It feels good to be confident. You deserve that. . So chase THAT. You don’t need me to tell you that you’re worth it, even though you are. You don’t need another meme telling you “follow your dreams”. Honestly, instagram is not gonna motivate you to do the things that are hard for days and months and years. . You need to dig deep, find what HURTS (in the example, your insecurity). . Because I guarantee, until you dig deep and light that fire for yourself, your motivation is going to be surface level and fleeting. But once it comes from deep within, that smoldering fire, it transitions from motivation to dedication. . Married people, committed partners. aren’t always motivated to be married. But they’re dedicated. You've gotta commit to your why as hard as you are committed to your partner. . I promise you, your parents were not always motivated to raise you. When you were a brat throwing a tantrum in Toys R Us when you didn’t get the toy you wanted, or coloring in the walls, they probably weren’t like “this is a great opportunity to help my child grow into a better person.” But they were dedicated to teaching you how to be a civilized human. (If I bounced on my mom's bed one more time as a 5 year old, I think she would have launched me to Mars haha) . And the same goes for you and for your motivation for whatever it is you don’t want to do right now. it’s the deep internal flame, the painful WHY- 5 whys- that is going to keep you going. . I hope this helps. I know it’s not the traditional Monday “go make this week yours” motivation. It’s not only this week, but this month. This year. This lifetime. Because I have my pain, I have something to prove to myself and make myself proud, AND live the level 50 life with Tyler that I dream of. . Time passes no matter what. YOU get to be the writer of your story. How do you want your story to end? Every story has a major struggle. Every story has obstacles. You are the hero of this beautiful story you are writing. . Comment “I’m ready” if you are ready to SEIZE the rest of 2020 and walk into 2021 ON FIRE!